FAQ

 

Why hire a gay matchmaker?

The first is logical: You’re frustrated with the bars, don’t have the time or energy for gay online dating, sick of sorting through profiles, etc. That’s the practical side of it!

There’s an emotional reason to hire a gay matchmaker, too. It could be that you’ve experienced a lot of rejection in your life as a gay man and you want to avoid the rejection that often comes in the dating world – or at least as much of it as possible. A matchmaker pre-screens people for you, and can help in this regard. Other emotional reasons could be that you don’t feel you deserve a relationship or it’s not worth all the effort.

Will it give me what I am looking for?

I help clients create a shift in their lives, and I do that through the coaching that I do. In the course of our relationship, I constantly come back to a few touchstones that I know to be true. Mainly, that no matter who you are you are worthy of love and it can happen to you. You can give and receive love. I’ve seen it happen too many times with clients who thought otherwise.

Am I ready for love?

The first one is from the perspective of giving love. Are you ready to invest the time and effort it takes to find and nurture love and do your actions really show that? So ask yourself if you’re willing to make yourself available, both physically and emotionally.

The second angle to consider is no less important: are you ready to receive love? This requires you to be open as well. In order to receive love, you have to know who you are. Do you know your strengths and weaknesses? Do you know your values? And knowing these things, do you love yourself? Having genuine answers to these questions allows you to be in a solid relationship with yourself, which is of utmost importance when you’re looking for love. Finding Bliss can help you with this.

How do I know if I am ready to hire a gay matchmaker?

First, hiring a matchmaker involves giving up a degree of control to someone else. You are allowing that person to take the reins in a very personal aspect of your life.

Next, hiring a matchmaker like me is a huge act of trust.  You have to be able to trust that I will find good matches for you. Are you capable of trust in this area of your life?

Third, when you hire a matchmaker, you need the ability to let go and surrender to the outcome. It’s a very different approach to finding love because of all the standard ways they’ve gone about it in the past with which they have experience: bars, online dating, social groups, mutual friends, etc. Maybe you’ve been going to the wrong places? Or you could be attracting the same kind of people? Are you frustrated with online dating?  You have to say: “I’m ready to outsource my love life” …to someone who will talk to me, find out about me, and make a match based on important values.

Are you ready to plant the seed? When a client plants a seed, he has to water it, feed it, and help it grow; otherwise it dies. We’re in this together, and we’re working together towards the same goal: finding love for you. So you have to be ready to join forces with me, collaborate, share, and grow the seed together? Will you do that? Do you want to do that?

Finally, you should ask yourself if you see the value in hiring a matchmaker. Do you see the value in what I’m doing for you? Or do you feel it’s too much money and you can do it yourself? Are my services a luxury, or a necessity? These answers all depend on you.

Can you prove it?

[As a matchmaker with a high level of integrity, discretion and confidentiality of my clients is one of my highest priorities. I’ve included testimonials from some of my past and current clients but have indicated who they are by their initials to protect their privacy.]

“Soniyah is an amazing matchmaker.  She really takes the time to get to know you in depth so she can find the absolute best match for me.  The part of love most about the service is Soniyah carefully interviews potential matches for me and really gets to know them.  She is able to screen out people that are simply not right for me which saves me lots of time and emotional heartache.   Soniyah has a keen sense for people and who would fit well together.  She is also just a delight to work with.”

-KB

“Over the course of the last few months we have met for our coaching sessions which have a specific agenda for each one.  After going through this, I have discovered how much I really like myself, even with my idiosyncrasies and weaknesses.  Soniyah has motivated me to deal with some of my “traps” and I actually feel better about myself and feel more ready for a relationship”

-AM

“Working with Soniyah has been fantastic! The coaching sessions alone have been worth their weight in gold. I have found out so much about myself. Where I’ve been, where I want to go, who I have been with and who I deserve to be with in the future. Soniyah has empowered me with a new found perspective that I do deserve true love and I don’t have to settle or compromise in order to find it. The two men Soniyah has introduced me to so far are fantastic! Like, if I was ordering off of a menu! That good! I’m having so much fun getting to know the matches and experience my new found perspective out there in the gay dating jungle!”

-TH

“Like most of us, Gary & I have very busy schedules.  We’re both professionals with demanding jobs that leave little time to meet people for possible dating relationships.  To add to this, I’m 52 years old and I’ve never been in a meaningful relationship, so this was all new, exciting territory for me!  Soniyah stepped in, and with just a wave of her hand, she created a wonderful relationship for Gary & me that I didn’t even believe could be possible!  Soniyah uses a combination of scientific computerized matching techniques, her considerable experience & success in match-making, and most importantly, her acute sense of intuition to make the perfect match.”

-PD

“Working with Finding Bliss empowered me again. I spoke my mind freely and answered all the questions Soniyah asked, it made me realize that I feared the idea of a relationship. I had been completely closed off to my emotions and to anyone who tried to get close to me. Soniyah made me realize that I needed to accept and allow myself to heal from and to forgive the past. Having done so, I found my heart again. I took a giant leap of faith and have never been happier. Thank you Soniyah!”

-EH